How To Wins Friends And Persuade People

✦ Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize or complain
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

✦ Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember a person's name.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

✦ Win people to your way of thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

✦ Be a Leader
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Favourite 27 words

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.  Amen

THE PICTURE OF FAILURE (Understanding Bring Cure)

F-rustration, hopelessness, futility
A—ggressiveness (misdirected)
I-nsecurity
L-oneliness (lack of "oneness")
U-ncertainty
R-esentment
E—mptiness

Each of these negatives was originally adopted as a "way" to solve a problem. We adopt them because we mistakenly see them as a "way"out of some difficulty. They have meaning and purpose, although based upon a mistaken premise. They constitute a way of life. The truth can set us free from them. And when we can see the truth, then the same instinctive forces which caused us to adopt them in the first place, will work in

our behalf in eradicating them.

Frustration is an emotional feeling which develops whenever some important goal cannot be realized or whenever some strong desire is thwarted. Since we are all human, we do necessarily suffer frustration because we are imperfect, incomplete and unfinished. One of  trhe strongest urges in humans is to react appropraitely. One can cure this symptoms by seeing that they do not work and that they are inappropriate.

As we grow older we should learn that all desires cannot be satisfied immediately. We also learn that our

WINDOWS 7 (part one)

Windows 7 is the next generation of windows after windows vista. I started testing this from a month ago. There are few of things I want to share. I have never commented on any window but this is not too bad.



As you can see, it look like windows vista but inside is totally different. the ratings are not limited to the 5.9 vista was given. I saw less difference between the x86(32 bit) and x64(64 bit) versions. The x64, though could be better, gave me unlimited crashes and the x86 looks stable.

The start menu is almost the same with the task bar being flat. Active programmes are represented as an icon on the task bar.



This is the view of the Control Panel. There are a lot that can be done as compared to Vista
The main reason I'm praising the windows 7 is it's Media Center. It is unique and up to my standard.




The Unique thing in this the feature of "play all". When playing music clips in vista media centre, there is no option of play all. It is very useless to select video after video and if you don't have a remote then it is a crap.




When playing a song all your album arts are displayed as above. infact it is very nice.



When browsing through files and albums, it is easier as seen above.




When playing Series like the above, it is easier with the tab of a remote. PLAY ALL.



Recorded TV and TV are perfect packages are perfect though I'm finding it hard to get windows 7 drivers for my Compro DTV .



My Sound Blaster Titanium X-fi works partially. My Dolby Digital live and DTS connect does not work and playing digital 5.1 surround sound is useless.


To be continued.....

Alizee, la isla Bonita

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11 THINGS WOMEN DON'T KNOW ABOUT MEN...

...PLUS ONE THING THEY PROBABLY DO KNOW, BUT WON'T ADMIT.

1. Getting angry at us for not reading your mind is like getting angry at yourself for not being able to fly. It's not just futile, it's physically impossible.


2. Yes, we do think Jessica Alba is hot. Sometimes we're even dumb enough to admit it.


3. Don't ask us to understand your shoe fetish. Asking us to respect it is even sort of pushing it.


4. You do look good without makeup, just not as good as you look with it.


5. Ever notice how we don't fight with our male friends? That's why we get so frustrated when we fight with you.


6. You care what you're wearing infinitely more than we do. In fact, if you're naked when you open the front door, you won't hear an argument from us.


7. You don't like to get hit on in public, you don't want to date online and you don't want to be set up on blind dates. Tell us if sending messenger pigeons is an appropriate way of courting. Because if it is, we're all over it.


8. There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us
There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us. I propose 24 hours.


9. Cooking dinner for a man is like buying flowers for a woman, except it takes a lot more time, effort and thought for you to do it. Thanks. We appreciate it.


10. We actually like your girly pet-names for us, but please, not in front of the guys!


11. Just because we like looking at the women in Maxim doesn't mean we want to actually converse with the women in Maxim. Not for long, anyway.


12. Your nice guy friends are the most reliable source for telling you if your new boyfriend's a jerk. And he probably is. (By the way, you might want to consider marrying that nice guy who's giving you advice about the jerk.)

Five Secrets You Should Hide from Your Partner

It starts out simply enough: A man and woman get together, they share some wine, they go back to her place, their relationship grows, they laugh and they fight, and they become-tada!-a couple. And then something happens: They're supposed to share everything with each other. Their fears. Their dreams. Their thoughts. Their bills. Their medicine cabinets. And that's when this simple little romance starts to get complicated. in most relationships, there's such a thing as too much sharing-and I believe that a little discretion at the right time in the right situation is not only a good thing, but also could actually improve relationships. As long as you're not breaking the relationship rules-like playing tonsil hockey while the goalie isn't watching-then a little mystery can be a good thing. Here, five secrets you should keep to yourself-because not saying something will actually speak volumes. (And just so you don't think that I'm pushing to abolish the honesty policy, you'll read about the things you should never keep from your partner next time.)

You Don't Turn Me on Right Now

Granted, there will be days when your partner walks into the room and everything sparkles-moments like these make us count our blessings. But there are going to be other moments when your woman looks less like Cindy Crawford and more like Broderick Crawford, and when your guy is less Hugh Grant than Lou Grant. But when the occasional fashion faux pas or haircut from Edward Scissorshands comes around, swallow your tongue. If you want him or her to wear certain styles, compliment what you like, and ignore what you don't. Eventually, they'll get the message-but without the hurt feelings.

I Flirt With Others at Work

The stats don't lie: About 40 percent of men and 35 percent of women have lusted after a co-worker-without ever making a move. Even if you have no intention of taking it anywhere, nobody wants to think of their significant others spending 8, 10, 12 hours a day around flirtatious and attractive co-workers, especially when they look, smell and behave at their very best. Want to share sexual secrets? Confess your attraction to Hollywood celebs, not the co-workers in the adjacent cube.

I Can't Stand Your Friends

Your partner's circle of friends probably come in three different categories: a perfect package, nice enough, and how the hell can the two of you be friends? In that last category, there are all kinds of crazies-maybe she's too controlling, or maybe he's a bad influence. Whatever the case, know your audience. You may not like the friends, but your partner has more history with them than with you. So while they may not rank high on your personal list, keep it to yourself. Boxing out a man's friends is a relationship deal breaker, according to 83 percent of men we surveyed. And 62 percent of women would end a relationship if a guy doesn't get along with her friends.

I Still Think About My Ex

While it's natural to think about your ex, the Internet has increasingly made exes a bigger threat than ever before. The phenomenon of searching online for one's ex, which the majority of Americans admit to, can really make your partner jealous and fearful-especially since the phenomenon of people reuniting with very old flames has recently exploded (again, because of the Internet). You put your exes in the past; do the same with any conversation about them.

I Can't Live Without You

Why? Number one, it's not true; you can live without them. And number two, the key to a successful long-term relationship is to ensure that you've got your own life. You can say I love you, I enjoy you, I desire you, I appreciate you. You don't say I can't live without you. A partner should never feel trapped. He or she should be making a choice every day to be with you. And you, with them.

Have your own stories and secrets you think should one should keep mum about? Share them here.